How to Propose a Girl

I can't believe that I am actually writing this post.

Background:
A lot of guys these days want to evaluate all the risk before asking the girl "that" question. It has always amazed me. Girls are NOT Mutual Funds.

The defense they offer is that they don't want to embarrass the girl or make her feel awkward and yak yak. The truth is they are scared. And my sympathy rests with all of them. But being in love itself is a scarier thing ;)
The most fascinating thing in love is to observe one's own self: the difference that person's call, her thoughts, the memory of her smile, etc. makes to you. It's exciting to think that you too, have fallen in love. It's like having jaundice, and seeing everything as [Coldplay] yellow.

The next step, of course, is not be consummated by that feeling that you feel within. It is time to listen and try and understand the language of her eyes. And it is not fun. Given the factor of complicacy and hypocrisy, you'll have a tough time. But then, you'll venture out only if you think the woman is worth it. So it is a litmus test.

Now some women like to be chased-- they think it is a measure of your "seriousness" towards her. It is a fallacious measure. For men can chase women harder and longer for their lust. Ahem, no pun intended really. Even women, can, for that matter.

Some women are two steps ahead of you :) while you're watching yourself bloom under the moons of her eyes, she is supplying you will all the shiny material for day-dreaming. She is only just waiting for you to go down on your knees.

Yes, sigh, that is indeed, mandatory. Women will never make you forget it if you didn't go down on your knees to ask that question.

Here's a quick checklist so far:

1. Don't judge or psycho-analyse her. Let her be.
2. Fight, but also make-up.
3. Be brutally honest, but also responsive towards the moments when she needs criticism or care.
4. If you understand that she also understands you and considers you special or important, then you may consider proposing her.

Don't ask her, "If I propose you then what will you do?"
I would hit him in the head. Apart from being a crime, it is also a major turn-off.

Guys need to be confident about the woman they want to propose. Confidence comes from knowing: that she also feels the same way. All the answers to your doubts lie in her eyes. Watch them.

Many times, women need to self-affirm their feelings for you, so they avoid looking in your eyes deliberately. Give her that space. Wait, but do not advertise or complain that you're waiting.

And then, take a step foward and risk all you have. Even if she accused you of misunderstanding and all that jazz, refer her this article. Else drop me a mail.

How to actually propose:

There are only two ways in which a woman really would like to be proposed: one is if you propose her in front of your family and close friends, and two, when you do it under the moon and stars with no one else but you and her.

Many women don't like a clandestine affair, or when you try to hide her from everyone you know. They like to know that people close to you are aware that she is a part of your life: that could just be a great compliment for her, if she really loves you.

And please, make that in person: no texts, no calls, no email, no video-conferencing.

No touching, no holding of hands, no kissing, before you propose.

Do it in your own style- in rain, snow, or pure sunshine.... in front of your parents, or rest of the world.... just mean it.

Coming up: Top 5 proposal episodes....